Lianne Perry, MA, MSc., RCC You don't have to feel better to choose something gentler. Many people come into therapy believing there is a sequence they need to follow. First, they heal.Then, they change.Then, life feels easier. So they wait. They wait to feel more confident before setting boundaries. They wait to feel calmer before making decisions. They wait to feel healed before allowing themselves to live differently. And in that waiting, life often stays very small. Where

Lianne Perry, MA, MSc., RCC Some conversations don't disappear. They wait. Have you ever said, “We’ll talk about it later,” and genuinely meant it… but later never came? At the time, it feels like the right call. Things are tense, emotions are high, and one or both of you is overwhelmed. So you press pause. “We’ll talk about it later.” Except later turns into tomorrow, next week, or not at all. And slowly, those conversations start to pile up. Why Couples Get Stuck Here This

Lianne Perry, MA, MSc., RCC You do not need certainty to pause. There is a belief that quietly keeps a lot of people stuck. It sounds reasonable on the surface. Sensible, even.“I just need to feel more confident before I decide.”“Once I’m sure, then I’ll act.”“I’m not ready yet.” The problem is that for many people, confidence never arrives first. Waiting for it can mean waiting indefinitely. Where this myth comes from We are often taught that good decisions come from certain