Lianne Perry, MA, MSc., RCC Listening to your needs often looks like this. Soft. Quiet. Allowed. Most people do not ignore their needs on purpose. They override them. They explain them away.They minimize them.They tell themselves they are too much.They tell themselves they are not important enough. And over time, something subtle happens. You start living in reaction instead of intention. But when you begin listening to your needs, even quietly, life shifts. Not dramatically

Lianne Perry, MA, MSc., RCC Attachment patterns are learned. And what is learned can shift. Somewhere along the way, attachment styles became personality labels. “I’m anxious.”“I’m avoidant.”“That’s just how I am.” And for a lot of people, reading about attachment styles feels both validating and defeating. Validating because it explains so much. Defeating because it can sound permanent. But here’s the myth: Your attachment style is not a life sentence. It is a pattern, and p

Lianne Perry, MA, MSc., RCC Growth does not eliminate difference. It asks us to stay oriented toward each other while we adjust. Growth is usually framed as something positive. And it is. But growth can feel unsettling when it starts to shift the rhythm of your relationship. Maybe one of you began therapy. Maybe one of you is setting clearer boundaries, reacting less quickly, or no longer over functioning to keep the peace. Over time, something subtle changes. The dynamic fee